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You're partly right. I work for myself, I fucking love my work, I'm a proper hacker, actually own investment property, two sports cars, and have a pretty nice h

You're partly right. I work for myself, I fucking love my work, I'm a proper hacker, actually own investment property, two sports cars, and have a pretty nice house paid off for a single guy at 29, but I can't find a decent woman to start a family with. I tried, before I got to where I am, I got out of a 6 year relationship with a girl who was a software engineer. We were perfect together, honestly. But at the end of the day, she chose pursuing her career in one state, and at the time I pursued my career in a different state in the US, because I wouldn't marry her. Do you think a guy like me was going to follow her around? No. Do you think she's going to find a guy doing better than me now? Slim pickings. She's going to settle for someone willing to follow her around. She texts me hinting at getting back together. Ok buddy. Yes, if I put my income on Match.com and professionally taken pictures, I get dozens of matches a day, but let's be real, they're not here for my pretty brown eyes. In what fucking world is it difficult for a successful man to find a decent, loyal woman to marry? I want kids, I want to have a son, but I know that the society as it is will cause a lot of turbulence to my marriage and how I raise my kids, even MORE SO than when I was a popper! Money just makes more problems these days! So what, I have to stop being a man and kill the very nature of myself of being motivated and determined just to keep a family together? GTFO. Anyway, this phenomenon is true even in countries that were previously highly conservative. Thanks to technology, we've enabled our primal biology to roam incredibly free regardless of where you are. So now guys like me have a super easy time at getting laid, and actually having a functional family feels damn near impossible. Why do I take the risk? Because what's the alternative? I have friends like that. They are super depressed, playing video games all day, shitty jobs they hate, some even living with their parents. Personally, I'd rather have my problems than be depressed, because at least I feel energetic and strong in my current state, doing things I like. I just can't start a family, which absolutely sucks.

croissants 7y ago
This is interesting, because from my perspective you seem unhappy, angry, and thoroughly invested in seeing the cause as [a decaying culture in thrall to liberal values] rather than [your own fixation on winning and insistence that “decent” women are very rare]. Is it hard to imagine why those qualities might deter thoughtful and kind people? I guess you might chalk this up as cerebral milquetoast pablum, but seriously, the aggression in your replies makes it hard for me to believe that you’re actually happy, and aren’t just distracting yourself from the things you’re angry about by accumulating generic attendants of happiness (property, cars, women!).
lovich 7y ago
Man, have some self reflection >In what fucking world is it difficult for a successful man to find a decent, loyal woman to marry? You ask this question _after_ you said this >But at the end of the day, she chose pursuing her career in one state, and at the time I pursued my career in a different state in the US, because I wouldn't marry her. Do you think a guy like me was going to follow her around? No. Do you think she's going to find a guy doing better than me now? Slim pickings. You weren't going to marry her, and you wanted her to abandon her career goals to follow you? Why would someone hurt their career to stay with someone who won't commit to them? You want a servant not a partner, and most people aren't looking to downgrade themselves to servant

croissants 7y ago

This is interesting, because from my perspective you seem unhappy, angry, and thoroughly invested in seeing the cause as [a decaying culture in thrall to liberal values] rather than [your own fixation on winning and insistence that “decent” women are very rare]. Is it hard to imagine why those qualities might deter thoughtful and kind people? I guess you might chalk this up as cerebral milquetoast pablum, but seriously, the aggression in your replies makes it hard for me to believe that you’re actually happy, and aren’t just distracting yourself from the things you’re angry about by accumulating generic attendants of happiness (property, cars, women!).

lovich 7y ago

Man, have some self reflection >In what fucking world is it difficult for a successful man to find a decent, loyal woman to marry? You ask this question _after_ you said this >But at the end of the day, she chose pursuing her career in one state, and at the time I pursued my career in a different state in the US, because I wouldn't marry her. Do you think a guy like me was going to follow her around? No. Do you think she's going to find a guy doing better than me now? Slim pickings. You weren't going to marry her, and you wanted her to abandon her career goals to follow you? Why would someone hurt their career to stay with someone who won't commit to them? You want a servant not a partner, and most people aren't looking to downgrade themselves to servant