A lot of things you learn when you have kids aren't necessarily useful to know in advance. My kid doesn't sleep well, and we (parents) consequently don't sleep

A lot of things you learn when you have kids aren't necessarily useful to know in advance. My kid doesn't sleep well, and we (parents) consequently don't sleep so well. Not much we could have done about that except try not to worry about it. Your personalised autonomously will reduce. You may have to Shelve some hobbies and activities for a while. That can be tough, even if you expect it. Try to be easy on yourself and your partner. Try and socialise when you can. Take turns getting naps and rest when you can. If you can get help from friends or relatives do, but sometimes you need a break from helpful advice too.