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I've noticed as I've gotten older that I can remember people's names as I first meet them. When I was younger, the name would fade within seconds. But something
by zackmorris 7y ago
I've noticed as I've gotten older that I can remember people's names as I first meet them. When I was younger, the name would fade within seconds. But something changed and now whatever mnemonics I used to remember names seem to now happen automatically. So if you have anxiety about that kind of stuff related to interpersonal interaction, don't worry, it gets easier.
If I had to pick a reason why, I think it's because I see the world now more through other people's eyes. So certain behaviors become easier as empathy improves. Almost like, remembering someone's name is less important because I already care how their day went or whatever, so asking them to remind me again what their name is, is more of an afterthought than a crisis. With the pressure off, remembering it just happens.
On the other hand, I've acquired a small degree of something like dyslexia, so sentence structure doesn't just automatically fall into place like it used to. I also sometimes accidentally swap words like "their" and "they're", which literally never happened once in decades. I think my brain shifted gears from being pedantic to letting the small stuff slide. But I think my disposition is more at ease now, so I'm not sure that I'd go back.
- jacobush 7y agowhenever I was anxious and tense, I would forget names immediately. When I was younger, I was anxious and tense pretty much all the time. As I age, I both get calmer (peace) as well as don't give a shit (cynic). I think these both help me remembering names.
- barrkel 7y agoI strongly relate to the issue with homonyms getting mixed up. I don't think I made a single mistake of that nature between the ages of 15 and 30, but they started to creep in as more of the thought -> typing pathway get ever more embedded in muscle memory and other unconscious mechanisms.
- sunstone 7y agoSame here. However I also notice that my writing has got better as my spelling has deteriorated. Perhaps the brain the moves up through higher abstraction levels as it ages.
- jghn 7y agoThe same has happened to me. I used to never make mistakes with homonyms but now do so quite frequently. I had assumed it was somehow related to changing technology and how that ties into my mental pathways. Now you all have me curious if perhaps it’s an artifact of aging