> au pair is more like an older sibling than an employee We all know that this is definitely not the case. You can put all sort of romantic ideals into the sys

> au pair is more like an older sibling than an employee We all know that this is definitely not the case. You can put all sort of romantic ideals into the system. But there is a definite employer/worker relationship and au pair are not just expected to “be part of the family” but to work as cleaners/nannies and chefs. If you want the system to work as you explain it, the au pair should be completely shielded from doing any non-voulentary work at all, and it would be a completely different system.