And to put even more of a punch to it, I spend 2 hours a day streaming Rust development (heh heh... inexperienced rust development :-) ) and it will buy me prec

And to put even more of a punch to it, I spend 2 hours a day streaming Rust development (heh heh... inexperienced rust development :-) ) and it will buy me precisely nothing at work. There's another guy on my team that seemingly spends every waking moment working on code for work -- because that's what he enjoys doing. He will very rightly get more recognition for his efforts at work than I will. Although it's never guaranteed, you general get what you put into it. I'm going to learn about Rust development in my spare time and maybe that will be useful to my career someday. Compared to someone who is concentrating on spending time with their kids, I might get some benefits. But, my Rust development will never throw me a surprise birthday party when I'm 90. My buddy at work enjoys the time he spends and gets lots of deserved plaudits at work. He'll get raises and promotions that I likely won't. I could do the same as him, but I don't want to. Similarly, had I chosen to settle down and have kids when I was of an age to do it, I could have. I decided not to and I'm totally happy with my choice. You don't get to benefit from the road you didn't choose. That's just life.