> a beautiful story of a guy who was too kind to be a dick when he needed to. This is a narrow and incomplete view of what's being talked about. > words chose

> a beautiful story of a guy who was too kind to be a dick when he needed to. This is a narrow and incomplete view of what's being talked about. > words chosen for your eulogy depend on the influence you managed to build while still living. Assuming there's anybody at all around to choose them, and assuming that they are honest, I'd say they depend much more on what sort of person you were. Maybe the influence you built will have a large effect on who hears them, but if you weren't "obsessed with success and prestige" in life then you would probably have been fine with a smaller crowd at your funeral anyway.