Yeah, addressing the insecurity does take care, and I did not mean to suggest that one should not care about their insecurities. They are things to work on and

Yeah, addressing the insecurity does take care, and I did not mean to suggest that one should not care about their insecurities. They are things to work on and make better, not things to just live with. The biggest problem with something like "what do you care what other people think" is that we want to read it in an absolutest manner. But that's not how it should be read. The question should be used as part of addressing the insecurity. Do you really need to care in this instance? A healthy friendship means caring about what the other person thinks. I imagine marriage makes that even more important. Caring about what some rando might think if he sees me crying? That's not important. A key thing is being mindful and purposeful about it instead of just letting whatever your current view of society is dictate your actions.