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The author is very deliberate about blaming his mother for negative outcomes in his life. Despite the likely case (guessing here) of the mom loving him uncondit

The author is very deliberate about blaming his mother for negative outcomes in his life. Despite the likely case (guessing here) of the mom loving him unconditionally, but wanting to imbibe ambition in him. The phenomenon of disliking one's parents for being too harh is much more prevalent in the West. And yet, parents in China and India are harder on their kids, while those kids are growing up to loving their parents more frequently, than being distraught. My point is, there is some social conditioning in the West that is leading people to dislike perfectly good, well intentioned parenting. Wanting and preparing one's kids for generally accepted notions of success isn't bad parenting, it's love, because it's easier to simply not put the ground work into imbibing a culture of success

triceratops 7y ago
> And yet, parents in China and India are harder on their kids, while those kids are growing up to loving their parents more frequently Got any evidence for that? Those cultures place a stronger emphasis on duty and obedience to parents. That's not the same as love though. It's possible to dislike one's parents but still take care of them in their old age because it's what society expects of you and you'd be considered a bad person if you did otherwise.
blurri 7y ago
> The phenomenon of disliking one's parents for being too harh is much more prevalent in the West Citation needed. If you look a few comments up you'll see some people not from the West discussing harsh parents. They're also affected negatively. Your idea that people complaining about how they weren't parented is them simply disliking their loving parents is not well thought out.