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I can relate to several of that. In the end i believe it’s really hard to build a life where you feel secure but still can express yourself. So over time you pl
by Ididntdothis 7y ago
I can relate to several of that. In the end i believe it’s really hard to build a life where you feel secure but still can express yourself. So over time you play a role for the outside but inside you just go numb. I guess it has been this way for most people throughout history. Societies aren’t designed for happiness and self expression.
- elbear 7y agoIt's true that it has been this way for most of human history. That's why children usually perpetuate their parents' behaviors. But you can stop this. That's what the book says. It takes a lot of work, but you can gradually change your beliefs.
- hef19898 7y agoStrangely, I feel better in situations I am less secure. More alert, less bored. And when I do have a certain degree of control over the volatile, and potentially threatening, situation it just feels great. Not in the sense of joy, so. More like a certain kind of calm satisfaction.
- Ididntdothis 7y agoSame here. But I think there are two levels to this. I often feel energized in challenging situations if I can go back to a secure life afterwards. Even if the situation is life threatening . But being fundamentally insecure as in serious long term health problems or being broke and not able to find a job or being homeless is just never ending misery without escape.