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> or you can work hard in your 20s and 30s and then spend your only time on this earth doing things that interest you, with your spouse What if your spouse wan

> or you can work hard in your 20s and 30s and then spend your only time on this earth doing things that interest you, with your spouse What if your spouse wanna spend her 20s and 30s with you, in a place that has a normal cost of living, doing a job that doesn't require you to be on 60hours a week? What if she doesn't wanna wait for you to retire or she doesn't want to retire early (or can't)? What if you spend your 20s and 30s to do the things you like and interest you and then spend the rest of your life working a steady job enjoying your family? It is possible to work hard in your 20s and still have a lot of time to do what you like. It is not possible to do what you like in your 60s with the same energy you had in your 20s. It's not binary, you either work or stay with the people you love doing interesting stuff, you can do both if you realise that retiring at 38 is not that important as a goal.

vonseel 7y ago
> What if your spouse wanna spend her 20s and 30s with you, in a place that has a normal cost of living, doing a job that doesn't require you to be on 60hours a week? I'm not sure 'bout the exact number of hours, but the top comment in this thread already said "In fact you'll typically find significantly better work-life balance at a FAANG than a startup.".
- noelsusman 7y ago
  "Better than a startup" is a very low bar.
  - scrumbledober 7y ago
    I work at a startup in San Mateo and feel that the work-life balance is great here. Not all startups are created equal.
- chinesempire 7y ago
  > "In fact you'll typically find significantly better work-life balance at a FAANG than a startup." I agree with that sentence. But it also depends on what people are looking for. If working at a FAANG means having to spend a capital for housing in the bay are, maybe that's not what they really want. Or maybe life in the bay area is not the kind of lifestyle they like. My point was more about trading money for freedom, especially freedom from bureaucracy/politics and freedom to prefer to be with your spouse instead that being at the office to retire early in your life and maybe divorce in the meantime. We are young only once in our life, we have plenty of time to work hard.

vonseel 7y ago

> What if your spouse wanna spend her 20s and 30s with you, in a place that has a normal cost of living, doing a job that doesn't require you to be on 60hours a week? I'm not sure 'bout the exact number of hours, but the top comment in this thread already said "In fact you'll typically find significantly better work-life balance at a FAANG than a startup.".

noelsusman 7y ago
"Better than a startup" is a very low bar.
- scrumbledober 7y ago
  I work at a startup in San Mateo and feel that the work-life balance is great here. Not all startups are created equal.
chinesempire 7y ago
> "In fact you'll typically find significantly better work-life balance at a FAANG than a startup." I agree with that sentence. But it also depends on what people are looking for. If working at a FAANG means having to spend a capital for housing in the bay are, maybe that's not what they really want. Or maybe life in the bay area is not the kind of lifestyle they like. My point was more about trading money for freedom, especially freedom from bureaucracy/politics and freedom to prefer to be with your spouse instead that being at the office to retire early in your life and maybe divorce in the meantime. We are young only once in our life, we have plenty of time to work hard.