> Why is being a competent, stable, kind adult not enough to be in a healthy relationship? Because no one owes you shit. If you don’t like your circumstances c

> Why is being a competent, stable, kind adult not enough to be in a healthy relationship? Because no one owes you shit. If you don’t like your circumstances change them. Either change yourself or change your surroundings. You are not owed a relationship of any kind, for any reason. Being a single man in the Bay Area is pretty awful because of the ratio, even if you are reasonably good looking, professionally successful and confident. It’s no fun being a young professional woman in New York City either. The ratio is the ratio; it has its effects. People give women marginally more lip service sympathy but they do exactly as much to actually help. Nothing.