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What about a Meetup account? https://www.meetup.com/ https://www.meetup.com/

5847f6da7bfeb7 7y ago
I try to go every month to the "Hack 'n' tell" organized from some people around the Chaos Computer Club. While it's fun, I generally just sit there and talk to nobody. I do ask questions and discuss with people, but I don't get any closer then this, which results in an even worse feel of loneliness in the end.
- C14L 7y ago
  So you are in Germany then? Just join any Sportverein! If you don't like exercise, then Chess or something. There are thousands of Sportvereine (and other types of Vereine) in each city, pick one (or three), go regularly.
- fvZK4nwToYaSlvu 7y ago
  I've had similar experiences in such settings. You might even find that you have some particular shared interests, might make plans to get together at some point, but nothing ever comes of it. I guess that is just human nature. My very particular piece of advice: If you are only and want to connect with people, don't limit yourself to Chaos events (or something similar). These gatherings are not very well-suited to making the type of connections you seem to seek. Even people who have been part of the scene for a long time struggle to meet people there. It's pretty much a scene like any other: If you don't meet the right people early on and make some kind of connection it's hard to get further and you will always feel left out to some degree.
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- Pamar 7y ago
  My first suggestions is and will always be: "try joining a martial art dojo/group/team/association". Martial arts range the whole spectrum from strenuous to fairly gentle so it does not matter if you are (or want to become) very fit/competitive or if you just want to relax and improve your general wellbeing and coordination. You can also pick zero-contact stuff like Iaido or Tai-Chi. Assuming you like the activity (please allow yourself at least three months of constant practice before drawing conclusions) you will almost automatically pick up social contacts through that.
non-entity 7y ago
Not OP but meetup has been generally terrible in my experience, at least in the two places I've lived recently it's been: 1. Meetups geared towards a demographic I'm not part of (the biggest occurrence is 50+ meetups) 2. Meetups that are a shill for some MLM, other scheming 3. Tech meetups on subjects that dont particularly interest me 4. Bar / bar hopping meetups, but everyone is decades older than me
- cydonian_monk 7y ago
  Those meetups where everyone is decades older than you? Many of them have children that might be your age. Make friends with both. Some of my best adult relationships are from older folks with similar interests introducing me to their children. I do agree about the general uselessness of Meetup.com though.

I try to go every month to the "Hack 'n' tell" organized from some people around the Chaos Computer Club. While it's fun, I generally just sit there and talk to nobody. I do ask questions and discuss with people, but I don't get any closer then this, which results in an even worse feel of loneliness in the end.

C14L 7y ago
So you are in Germany then? Just join any Sportverein! If you don't like exercise, then Chess or something. There are thousands of Sportvereine (and other types of Vereine) in each city, pick one (or three), go regularly.
fvZK4nwToYaSlvu 7y ago
I've had similar experiences in such settings. You might even find that you have some particular shared interests, might make plans to get together at some point, but nothing ever comes of it. I guess that is just human nature. My very particular piece of advice: If you are only and want to connect with people, don't limit yourself to Chaos events (or something similar). These gatherings are not very well-suited to making the type of connections you seem to seek. Even people who have been part of the scene for a long time struggle to meet people there. It's pretty much a scene like any other: If you don't meet the right people early on and make some kind of connection it's hard to get further and you will always feel left out to some degree.
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Pamar 7y ago
My first suggestions is and will always be: "try joining a martial art dojo/group/team/association". Martial arts range the whole spectrum from strenuous to fairly gentle so it does not matter if you are (or want to become) very fit/competitive or if you just want to relax and improve your general wellbeing and coordination. You can also pick zero-contact stuff like Iaido or Tai-Chi. Assuming you like the activity (please allow yourself at least three months of constant practice before drawing conclusions) you will almost automatically pick up social contacts through that.

non-entity 7y ago

Not OP but meetup has been generally terrible in my experience, at least in the two places I've lived recently it's been: 1. Meetups geared towards a demographic I'm not part of (the biggest occurrence is 50+ meetups) 2. Meetups that are a shill for some MLM, other scheming 3. Tech meetups on subjects that dont particularly interest me 4. Bar / bar hopping meetups, but everyone is decades older than me

cydonian_monk 7y ago
Those meetups where everyone is decades older than you? Many of them have children that might be your age. Make friends with both. Some of my best adult relationships are from older folks with similar interests introducing me to their children. I do agree about the general uselessness of Meetup.com though.