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> guys who would be considered attractive and desirable in most other locations Your conception of what women are looking for in a man might not hew as closely
by darkerside 7y ago
> guys who would be considered attractive and desirable in most other locations
Your conception of what women are looking for in a man might not hew as closely to reality as you think.
- avs733 7y ago...and might explain some elements of the conclusions.
- wpietri 7y agoExactly. A lot of the single women I know moved here for pretty specific reasons. Maybe he's right that these poor, poor men are exactly what women want in Ottumwa, Iowa, although I doubt it. But I'm quite sure that many of the people who live in the Bay Area are here precisely because they want something different than what they could get elsewhere.
- iowanTechWorker 7y agoyo. leave iowa out of it.
- buboard 7y agoEveryone, literally, is looking for different things. Most ppl try to extrapolate from their personal preference to the whole population, and think their place is somehow unique, but that’s wrong. And, barring extreme inbalances in gender ratio, most people eventually find their match.
- dunkelheit 7y agoYou write like "what women are looking for in a man" is some absolute thing, but it is decidedly not! It is highly context-dependent. As an extreme example, there are some places on Earth where simply not being an alcoholic can make you a desirable mate.
- darkerside 7y agoActually, it was the parent post that created the context I was responding in. I totally agree with you.
- antisthenes 7y agoHey, don't talk about my home country like that! :)
- asdkhadsj 7y agoI think you missed Ps point completely. It was that if the ratios are off, the lower side has more of a supply. What specifically each individual is looking for doesn't matter. It's supply and demand.
- lazyasciiart 7y agoI don't think that's a counterpoint to the comment you responded to in any way at all.
- golergka 7y agoIn this thread, all people are talking about dating, but looking for a life partner and looking for one night stand are very different things. All genders and sexual orientations look for different things in those two scenarios. A person who would easily find an awesome life partner would have a lot of trouble finding casual sex, and vice versa.
- mk30 7y agothis right here: "Your conception of what women are looking for in a man might not hew as closely to reality as you think."