I think you and the blog post author are making the same mistake. You're just not putting a dollar value on these social costs. If the blog author valued their

I think you and the blog post author are making the same mistake. You're just not putting a dollar value on these social costs. If the blog author valued their partner's feeling they would enumerate upsetting them as a cost and it wouldn't be so clear that you're earning $500. But rather you're earning $500 less the cost to your personal relationship. This is a similar mistake to failing to price other intangibles like risk.