4 ms·
Could it be that dating was the only situation where you experienced the feeling of being on the losing side?
by mannykannot 7y ago
Could it be that dating was the only situation where you experienced the feeling of being on the losing side?
- swiley 7y agoBut the only way to lose in the situations in the first paragraph is by just not doing anything! Literally show up and do something and you make everything better for everyone including yourself!
- mannykannot 7y agoDating is not actually a zero-sum game either; the issue here is more about perceptions than things necessarily being so.
- lonelappde 7y agoIf you are heterosexual in a non 1:1 balanced environment, then romantic partners are a rivalrous good.
- mannykannot 7y agoSure, if the count is just of how many people are dating, but any such model grossly oversimplifies the complexity of human relationships - though, for the subset of people who approach dating with this mindset, it might be accurate. This could also be said for a number of other 'games' mentioned in the article.
- bookofjoe 7y ago"Fleabag" offers wonderful commentary on this subject (among many others).