A much better phrasing is “what help do you need?”. This works with people you’re responsible for, peers, and others. This has a better chance of discovering if

A much better phrasing is “what help do you need?”. This works with people you’re responsible for, peers, and others. This has a better chance of discovering if they’re using you to vent to, or discovering a need that someone else can provide and you can connect them with. Secondarily it prevents the problem from becoming your problem because the question stops being an offer.