I suppose the simple answer to your question is that, you don't find musicians posting on fora asking about unhealthy work-life balance -- despite the fact that

I suppose the simple answer to your question is that, you don't find musicians posting on fora asking about unhealthy work-life balance -- despite the fact that the average working musician's schedule is insane. We get these questions as programmers because there is a schism between the "rockstar programmer" who is obsessed with programming and the 9-5 joe who is looking to make a 6 figure salary in an office. They irony is that the 9-5 is much more likely to be promoted than the rockstar simply because they are more likely to value people skills over technical skills. But it's funny, because I mentored a person once who was really upset about the fact that he couldn't compete against the top technical people on the team. He didn't want to put the hours in to get to the next level and somehow felt that it shouldn't be necessary. I kept trying to tell him that he should focus on things that he enjoyed rather than trying to be the best at something he didn't want to do. Nobody needs a team completely full of obsessed programmers. There are lots of other ways to provide value to the team. However it was absolutely useless. Anyway, it's a thing you've got to work out in your own head and according to your own values. But you can't be upset when you don't get the rewards for the path that you didn't choose.