3 ms·
My wife and I met via a dating app in 2000. This was back in the day when you might have 40 women in total in a given metro area participating. Anyway, what y
by mattrp 7y ago
My wife and I met via a dating app in 2000. This was back in the day when you might have 40 women in total in a given metro area participating. Anyway, what you wrote about what dating sites don’t do (advice on etiquette etc) also resonated with me. I remember not long after my wife and I started dating I went out and spent about a thousand bucks on new clothes and another $600 on new glasses. I showed up to our next date impressed with myself. She was like hey nice glasses but where on earth did you find these clothes? I told her and she said ok don’t do that again, let me help you. I could have been angry... she could have said nothing and never gone out with me again... one thing I see with my friends who 20 years later who still have no spouse is that they all end their relationships before they get to the point of candor without consequences. It’s sad that some people jump right to intimacy but they aren’t even willing to say to that person hey you might want to pluck your eyebrows. Honestly I don’t think even if a dating site did give this advice people would even follow it but I have to say they probably should!
- firefoxd 7y agoLove your story. And I think room for mistakes or for people to be people, is crucial to creating relationships. This lacks in modern apps, where the tiniest physical flaw makes us swipe away, and a beautified instagram like profile gets all the attention. If apps can teach us quantum mechanics, I think an app can at least attempt to teach us relationships.