I might be spectrum but definitely have ADHD-i my wife has ADHD-h Difference basically being I can only focus on one thing at a time (and the things connected

I might be spectrum but definitely have ADHD-i my wife has ADHD-h Difference basically being I can only focus on one thing at a time (and the things connected to that thing), but I jump from 1-1-1-1 in a circular mode. My wife is now like she's mentally got a rope on everything at once but never finishes any of the things in her focus because there's too many. I guess in programming terms we both have focus issues but she's asynchronous and I'm only synchronus. If I get bored or my mind wanders of task I end up on hn, Google, Reddit or doing anything that isn't work. Started taking meds a year ago at 39 and light and day difference when I'm on my Vyvanse. Sometimes I front load a couple days worth of work (freelance by the hour),; I'll literally be up 48 hours and put in 24+ hours of work, insomnia is a side effect of Vyvanse, so I usually when I'm past me limit I'll go off the next day and catch up on sleep and family time and relax a little then the following day jump back in, though I don't always go full in for two days. Trying to not kill myself cause I have kids, but I work best when everyone is asleep anyways.