I agree with your general take, but there are some details that I think are pretty far off-base, such as this about communication: "Most people learn this by h

I agree with your general take, but there are some details that I think are pretty far off-base, such as this about communication: "Most people learn this by high school. I mean, if you're a functioning adult at a grown-up job, some decorum, emotional intelligence, and context come with the territory." I've worked in a number of different fields including the military, computer sales/maintenance, and medicine. While there are plenty of people who had learned to communicate fairly well, there were also plenty of people who were nearly catastrophically bad at it. Spend a month in a surgery center to see how bad functioning adults at a grown-up job can get. "What he was doing with his girlfriend wasn't even technically a one-on-one: there's no power asymmetry there." There's a tremendous amount of power asymmetry in a lot of relationships, particularly if you land yourself a narcissist.