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I disagree. Keeping focus is a basic biological function of brain. Healthy boundaries and respect are necessary for that. If your "partner" prevents that, relat

I disagree. Keeping focus is a basic biological function of brain. Healthy boundaries and respect are necessary for that. If your "partner" prevents that, relationship is toxic and will probably get even worse over time. In other words, it is better to be alone, than with someone who ruins your mind and sleep.

mam2 7y ago
Both are orthognal. Prentending the contrary is just a way to find pride in deciding to be a geek who has no sex.
- throwaway72873 7y ago
  It is 2019, you do not need a relationship to have a sex.
  - scandox 7y ago
    Tell me more. How is this achieved? Do you mean sex workers? Or pornography? Or a real doll? Or what? Because if I've learned one thing in my life it is that there is no sex without a relationship. Everything else is a sliding scale of masturbation. The desire to pretend otherwise is a cause of significant misery for many people.
  - thobrnst1837 7y ago
    You do if you're under 35, male and ~<70th percentile in attractiveness. Which is a massive proportion of the tech world.
    - mam2 7y ago
      found the incel
  - mam2 7y ago
    The point iz that you dont live to be focused. At best you are supposed to focus sporadically to have better life.
koonsolo 7y ago
Well don't have any kids then. So from an evolutionary standpoint, focus might not be that important after all ;).
- throwaway72873 7y ago
  I have kids. Again it is about setting boundaries and respect. Most people make mistake they start compromising very early for no reason, and when things get tough, they just get buried.
  - koonsolo 7y ago
    So how do you set the boundry when your baby starts crying in the middle of the night, or when your kid throws up in the bed? Let the wife handle it?
o-__-o 7y ago
But then you are not keeping focus of your relationship. Focus is not relegated to just your day job, you need to work and thus focus on your relationship consistently too

mam2 7y ago

Both are orthognal. Prentending the contrary is just a way to find pride in deciding to be a geek who has no sex.

throwaway72873 7y ago
It is 2019, you do not need a relationship to have a sex.
- scandox 7y ago
  Tell me more. How is this achieved? Do you mean sex workers? Or pornography? Or a real doll? Or what? Because if I've learned one thing in my life it is that there is no sex without a relationship. Everything else is a sliding scale of masturbation. The desire to pretend otherwise is a cause of significant misery for many people.
- thobrnst1837 7y ago
  You do if you're under 35, male and ~<70th percentile in attractiveness. Which is a massive proportion of the tech world.
  - mam2 7y ago
    found the incel
- mam2 7y ago
  The point iz that you dont live to be focused. At best you are supposed to focus sporadically to have better life.

koonsolo 7y ago

Well don't have any kids then. So from an evolutionary standpoint, focus might not be that important after all ;).

throwaway72873 7y ago
I have kids. Again it is about setting boundaries and respect. Most people make mistake they start compromising very early for no reason, and when things get tough, they just get buried.
- koonsolo 7y ago
  So how do you set the boundry when your baby starts crying in the middle of the night, or when your kid throws up in the bed? Let the wife handle it?

o-__-o 7y ago

But then you are not keeping focus of your relationship. Focus is not relegated to just your day job, you need to work and thus focus on your relationship consistently too