For many years my career was my entire identity: I really, really wanted to be a designer. I thought it was the coolest thing EVER. Then my son was born and I

For many years my career was my entire identity: I really, really wanted to be a designer. I thought it was the coolest thing EVER. Then my son was born and I couldn't quite make this designer career/life that I wanted. I also realized I wasn't AMAZING at it, but I was GOOD at it. I couldn't quite get over that threshold. So therefore, not being at the top of my game and trying to feed my family became a problem. I gave it up and became a programmer, which I don't attach myself too as much these days. I tell people I'm a parent first, board gamer second, programmer third. Whereas before, I was a designer-everything. Life is always changing-- change with it.