"I'm of the opinion that it doesn't matter what is but how you think about what is that matters." That's a false dichotomy that will be difficult to fully adhe

"I'm of the opinion that it doesn't matter what is but how you think about what is that matters." That's a false dichotomy that will be difficult to fully adhere to when you spend your next decades as an adult. Yes, perspective matters; a LOT. But "what is" and "what was" can matter a lot too. Imagining that you can just think your way out of hard spots can lead to complacency about the choices that you make. Keeping a positive perspective can involve an enormous amount of mental effort that may have been mitigated by better choices.