What we've done with our kids is tell them from an early age that we will help them with the first year of college and after that they are on their own. So far

What we've done with our kids is tell them from an early age that we will help them with the first year of college and after that they are on their own. So far we have 2 in college and that has been how it worked out. They knew up front that we would not help them after the first year, and neither has come to us asking for help because we were upfront with them long before they started going to college. Bottom line, set expectations early.