Think of your different pursuits and interests as games. Game of your relationship, of making great product or game of making money. For each of those games yo

Think of your different pursuits and interests as games. Game of your relationship, of making great product or game of making money. For each of those games you can think about what optimal move is right now. You may not know the truth but you can decide what you think it is. Now the problem is that if these games are different, then inevitably, by definition you'll come to a point at which given move is great in your game A but sucks in your game B. And that's The Game. I could write whole lot more about it because I've spend a long time thinking about it, but I think most HN readers can take it from there. But that's how I see focus. You feel great when you focus on a single game. Then you don't have all those nasty conflicts (which are really the only problem you have in life - not a bad situation - a problem). It's rare though. There are games like social status etc. that you may not even know you're playing.