Yeah, I do think it's a superpower to, even if you "know" something is right or wrong, to put it in the form of a question about a risk. You frame the other par

Yeah, I do think it's a superpower to, even if you "know" something is right or wrong, to put it in the form of a question about a risk. You frame the other party as possibly having information you don't. It opens up two new good paths: 1) the other person actually having important perspective you don't, and you learning that in a civil way, and 2) the other person recognizing the problem, adapting the plan accordingly, and still feeling ownership over the plan. It also opens up a new bad path: 3) the other person being ashamed of not having this perspective and digging in on the bad plan. But if you're seeing #3 regularly, that's a job you need to quit ASAP.