You might be surprised how "civilized" military members can be. Among their own and blowing off steam they will say things that will make the hair curl on most

You might be surprised how "civilized" military members can be. Among their own and blowing off steam they will say things that will make the hair curl on most people... and then if you look around at the others it's obvious it's not said out of malice but is a mark of The Brotherhood. They have not only pledged their lives to serve and protect their bothers in arms, they have, in many cases, made good on that promise. Saying massively politically incorrect things -- even things that would sound hateful to an outsider -- is a strange way of showing affection. "I might think you're a blankety-blank blah-blah politically incorrect and mentally inferior example of humanity but I will give my life on the battlefield so that you can make it home, even if I don't make it back myself." For those who have not gone through such an experience, no amount of explanation is possible; for those who have, no explanation is necessary. But around "normal people" you would never suspect what they've been through (with the exception of PTSD and obvious injuries).