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Can you use a concrete example to illustrate your claim?
by danharaj 7y ago
Can you use a concrete example to illustrate your claim?
- dctoedt 7y agoI did in the edited version (I hadn't seen your question before doing the edit).
- danharaj 7y agoI'ma be real with you chief. That's hella shallow and pedantic. I think it would be hurtful and disrespectful to die on such a mole hill instead of just accommodating people over something so simple.
- dctoedt 7y agoIt never ceases to astonish me how ready some people are to feel hurt and disrespected — and to brand anyone who disagrees with them as "shallow and pedantic." I have no desire to expend scarce brain cycles trying to keep up with who wants to be addressed in what manner.
- danharaj 7y ago> I have no desire to expend scarce brain cycles trying to keep up with who wants to be addressed in what manner. This is disrespectful. You might think that this disrespect is warranted- that's fine; one must make judgment calls about what to respect and what not to respect. It's still disrespect. Be yourself: own it :)
- dctoedt 7y ago> This is disrespectful. You've calibrated your disrespect alarm to an awfully low setpoint.
- shkkmo 7y agoMany people of different types have preferences about what they consider respectful forms of address and communication. I don't expect people to always get it right (I certainly don't), but it is entirely reasonable to see am unwillingness to even try to be polite as disrespectful.
- dctoedt 7y agoIt's not impolite to use standard terms of address, and it's disrespectful to expect others to learn and remember your personal, nonstandard preference for how you want to be addressed.
- shkkmo 7y agoThey is the only available standard gender neutral term. The only alternative is "it" which is generally considered offensive when applied to people (try calling a new baby whose gender you don't know "it" and see what kind of look you get).