> Maybe there's the benefit of finding friends Maybe at the time it was beneficial, but I didn’t stay friends with anybody I was friends with in school for lon

> Maybe there's the benefit of finding friends Maybe at the time it was beneficial, but I didn’t stay friends with anybody I was friends with in school for long after leaving school and now I’m not in contact with any of my school friends. When I was a child, I was friends with people based on proximity (eg we were in the same class therefore we were friends), but nowadays I choose my friends based on shared ideals or passions. I also found a many (not all) of my school friends ended up being incredibly mentally draining unambitious people and that hanging out with them held me back from my own ambitions and values and they ended up being quite negative relationships. Life is too short to deal with that so now I choose friends who enable me to be who I want instead of holding me back and I try to be a positive enabler to my friends in return. > when you can find friend circles from a larger pool with people you want to talk to? Exactly this.