> The issue is, if I'm to open up and invite a stranger in, how do I know which category they belong in? I feel probability wise, chances are they're of the for

> The issue is, if I'm to open up and invite a stranger in, how do I know which category they belong in? I feel probability wise, chances are they're of the former, and are probably boring, judgmental, uptight, have issues, etc. Which is why they're lonely in the first place. You don't know which category and that's okay. No one is encouraging you become bffs, let them move in, or even to see them ever again. It's chatting and getting to know someone in a different place in life than you. If you only let people in your life who are not-boring, not-judgemental, not-uptight, issue-free, etc, you run the risk of being more like the person you'd reject over the person you'd welcome.