My wife's mom is very similar, from the physical abuse to the insults. Our church friends (those who know) generally get it, but we've had interactions where my

My wife's mom is very similar, from the physical abuse to the insults. Our church friends (those who know) generally get it, but we've had interactions where my wife has been criticized for not having an active relationship with her. There comes a point at which you can forgive, you can let go, but you can't invite them into your life, both for your family's safety (literally) and per their own wishes. They've shown many times that they don't want a relationship. They want to use you, control you, and abuse you until you try to kill yourself. It's hard to grasp for someone who hasn't been intimately connected with that type of personality, but there are some parents who genuinely don't love their children and shouldn't be near them.