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It's not the kids responsibility to make sure their grown adult parents have a social life. That's even more depressing. I totally understand where people are
by jupiter90000 7y ago
It's not the kids responsibility to make sure their grown adult parents have a social life. That's even more depressing.
I totally understand where people are coming from with that though -- the parents gave life and raised the kids, so shouldn't the kids repay them? The only thing is, the kids didn't (as far as we know) choose to be brought into life and have the experiences with the family they had. Maybe they were terrible or at best for some, neutral. Then, why would they feel the need to "pay back" for that?
Finally, would you rather someone hang out with you because they feel guilty obligation to do so versus happy freeness to do so? I wouldn't want someone feeling guilted into spending time with me because they "owe me one." If it was from a place of "happy freeness," then sure.
- hn_throwaway_99 7y ago> It's not the kids responsibility to make sure their grown adult parents have a social life. That's even more depressing. Jesus, we're not talking about setting the parents up on dates, we're talking about a single Christmas dinner with family.
- notvplez 7y agoHonestly I would feel more comfortable managing my mothers online dating accounts until the day she dies(not that she has any that I know of anyway) than attending yet another christmas dinner. And I don't have any problems with seeing my family, it's just christmas is such an awkward time all around - to me at least.
- jupiter90000 7y agoExactly -- so why is it a big deal if someone chooses not to participate? Lots of cultural and learned expectations around holidays. That's ok though, we all can choose for ourselves what's right I think.