Hi, sorry I'm not sure it will help, or if it's the place, or my place, but here it is. Hearing you hurting about your inability to convince him, and his inabil

Hi, sorry I'm not sure it will help, or if it's the place, or my place, but here it is. Hearing you hurting about your inability to convince him, and his inability to change, I feel like sharing something I learned the hard way with family, friends, loved ones : he made his choices. In the end, he somehow chose this life and this end. It's not your fault. You tried to change his mind, and you should feel OK that you tried hard. He might have been grateful for your advice, he might be grateful you're still here, with him, right now. I don't know him. But with people, if really you think they're independent, free intelligent beings, the only thing you can do is /try/ and give support. It's very good that you took time with him before his operation and that's not something you should feel guilty of, even if it sometimes seems so. I hope you'll feel better or at least OK in the coming weeks. Be well.