So the underlying question is: how important is it that your children are capable of the types of success which require enormous determination and tenacity. I

So the underlying question is: how important is it that your children are capable of the types of success which require enormous determination and tenacity. I don't it's fair to say that opting for the Tiger Mom approach necessarily implies that all self worth comes from winning. The really tough questions is: How much of your child's self esteem should come from enduring extended periods of hard work to achieve a goal. It's tough because the extent to which a child tries hard may be directly affected by the extent to which their self esteem requires that success.