I'm not anti immigration in general, and in fact my whole family came here from eastern Europe decades ago - though I grew up American-ish, I've always felt dif

I'm not anti immigration in general, and in fact my whole family came here from eastern Europe decades ago - though I grew up American-ish, I've always felt different from the members of my communities, partly because culture in my home was not quite American. This is one of the costs of a liberal immigration policy - families from different cultures are less likely to interact closely and form civic societies. The barrier comes in the form of subtle but different social customs, and different values - there's a reason large groups of immigrants tend to self segregate, and it isn't just the convenience of language. That doesn't mean people won't be kind and neighborly, but it limits the depth of the average inter-familial relationship. The millennials in my cohort, I imagine across the country, were raised by their schooling to be race and culture blind, in a well meaning attempt to encourage cohesiveness. This education did not erase the actual differences that drive different cultures apart, it only made most of us blind to them, which I think makes it more difficult to overcome subtle cultural barriers because it takes time for, especially "suburban white kids", to be aware of and mitigate the soft social friction that comes from cultural clash.