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Efficient people get something done, then have time to spare. Lazy people don't get anything done. Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do som
by phlux 16y ago
Efficient people get something done, then have time to spare. Lazy people don't get anything done.
Confident people listen to reason and input on how to do something they're already good at, better - and take new information with grace. Arrogant people believe they operate at a different level than others (See: Jason Calcanis)
Risk-averse people weigh a ton of information in order to actually make the right step FORWARD. Fear-based people avoid all risk because any movement forward causes them worry about losing what they already have, thus they don't gain anything new.
- Mz 16y agoI have been accused of "laziness" my whole life. Part of the reason: I have a medical condition that wasn't diagnosed until late in life. I just didn't have the energy other people around me had. Still, I graduated high school STAR student, national merit scholarship winner, state alternate for the governor's honors program...etc...while missing 18 and 19 days of school every single year and dragging myself to school sick much of the rest of the time. My youngest son had trouble learning to write. He was qualified for the gifted program in 3 states, so the teacher refused to work with me and insisted he could do it, he was "just being lazy". I pulled him out to homeschool. He has a learning disability. I got him caught up in writing, improving by more than a grade level in three months. It has not been my experience that people who get labeled "lazy" really are. They usually have some issue and figuring out what the real issue is and helping them with it is generally far more effective than simply labeling, blaming, and condemning them. I also get accused of "arrogance", a huge ego and many other things. I really don't think any of that is true either. So I am sorry but you and I aren't likely to see eye-to-eye on this topic.
- phlux 16y agoThats cool - I wasnt calling anyone out. I have ADHD tendencies and I procrastinate a lot. I am not "lazy" I get a lot done -- sometimes though, its not what should be high on my priority list. Lots of people get called arrogant, but there is a difference between having confidence and being an asshole. Good job with your son. Did you work from home to be able to do that for him?
- Mz 16y agoI was a homemaker for many years. Not your typical demographic for this site. :-D As for confidence vs a-hole: I go way out of my way to not be an a-hole. It fails to protect me from personal attacks and accusations (though it does tend to reduce it, it doesn't exempt me from running into a-holes). My main point is that negative characterizations generally don't move anyone forward and are usually not "the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth". Mental framing is part of that. Most people are trained from early childhood to view things negatively. It is a counterproductive habit for many people and finding another framework can be very freeing and empowering.
- jasonmcalacanis 16y agoI do operate on a different level than others--typically two levels below.
- phlux 16y agoSorry, you're an easy target simply because you have put yourself out there so much. You do deserve a bit more respect - just some of the things you have written really hit a nerve with me. :)
- Mz 16y ago"There's no such thing as bad publicity." :-) (Attributed to Mae West and probably any number of other people.)