That's fair, and I think your other comment's point of holding hostage as opposed to charity without judgement is key. It's that tendency that's made me default

That's fair, and I think your other comment's point of holding hostage as opposed to charity without judgement is key. It's that tendency that's made me default to suspicious of christian charity, despite it being my origins, as it has been quite a common habit - charity as a means to convert, rather than simply doing good works for those in need. Not at all surprised to hear the food was poorer too.