There may be a generic list somewhere but I find them to come naturally from curiosity. Things like: - Do you like what you do? - Do you regret this or that?

There may be a generic list somewhere but I find them to come naturally from curiosity. Things like: - Do you like what you do? - Do you regret this or that? - Did you study what you always wanted? - How believing in X helped you? - What’s the worst memory/event you went through? - Do you love your parents? - What’s the best/worst your kids gave to you (emotionally speaking)? - Do you think you need this or is it a distraction from the important stuff (whatever that is for you)? Those questions I just came up for nobody in particular (for a close friend those would be pretty normal) and depending of your background, customs, etc they might be deep or might not. They’re not inquisitive and I’m definitely not judging or trying to convince about anything. They do make you think a bit before answering and you learn a lot from those, even from the most superficial people. You need to be very open and accept very harsh and contrary visions from your own in order to benefit from it though, and that’s a long process.