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There's nothing antisocial about assessing your use of a service and deciding its benefits are less significant than its costs.

sudont 16y ago
Cost/value whatever. I'm talking about other people's perceptions of you, which aren't logical. This is the anti-social behavior i'm talking about: you're right, the world's crazy. "If one person calls you a donkey, ignore him; if five people call you a donkey, buy a saddle"
- apotheon 16y ago
  I make it a point to hold in higher esteem the opinion of someone I personally know to have his or her head screwed on straight than a mob of virtual social butterflies who don't even know my girlfriend's name. When she calls me a donkey, I'll get fitted for a saddle. When vampyrlust317 and fifty of his/her Facebook "friends" do so, I'll probably ignore it.
  - sudont 16y ago
    Um, the close friends (people I knew for four+ years) are the people who stopped talking to me after I dropped off of facebook. It was generally a "why aren't you back on facebook" for several months, and then they just stopped responding to texts and emails.
    - apotheon 16y ago
      Wow. Seriously, you need a better class of friends. Are you seriously telling me that people won't talk to you in person because you aren't on Facebook? What the hell is wrong with people?
      - sudont 16y ago
        Yes: minus a former roommate, a girl who quit facebook herself, and somebody I worked with. People at work are suspicious when they find out I'm not on facebook, and try to cajole me into joining.
baguasquirrel 16y ago
It is antisocial to forsake speaking with your friends. Speaking directly is a medium of communication, as is Facebook. You can argue about the cost/benefits of each, and claim your way is the better one, and this would constitute a lack of empathy, a lack of sympathy, or both. Now don't get me wrong, I don't claim to have been much better. And FWIW, I've observed the same effect for quitting WoW. Once I did, a whole class of friends stopped talking to me.
- apotheon 16y ago
  If someone told me he was getting rid of his cellphone because it was costing him too much money, time, whatever, I wouldn't leap to the conclusion that he's just snubbing his friends. If you would, I think you have some antisocial issues of your own. > And FWIW, I've observed the same effect for quitting WoW. Once I did, a whole class of friends stopped talking to me. They're jackasses if that's really the reason they stopped talking to you -- unless WoW is all you had in common with them, in which case I don't understand your problem. I find it difficult to believe you're honestly defending that kind of behavior, if they were supposedly real (not just gaming) friends.

sudont 16y ago

Cost/value whatever. I'm talking about other people's perceptions of you, which aren't logical. This is the anti-social behavior i'm talking about: you're right, the world's crazy. "If one person calls you a donkey, ignore him; if five people call you a donkey, buy a saddle"

apotheon 16y ago
I make it a point to hold in higher esteem the opinion of someone I personally know to have his or her head screwed on straight than a mob of virtual social butterflies who don't even know my girlfriend's name. When she calls me a donkey, I'll get fitted for a saddle. When vampyrlust317 and fifty of his/her Facebook "friends" do so, I'll probably ignore it.
- sudont 16y ago
  Um, the close friends (people I knew for four+ years) are the people who stopped talking to me after I dropped off of facebook. It was generally a "why aren't you back on facebook" for several months, and then they just stopped responding to texts and emails.
  - apotheon 16y ago
    Wow. Seriously, you need a better class of friends. Are you seriously telling me that people won't talk to you in person because you aren't on Facebook? What the hell is wrong with people?
    - sudont 16y ago
      Yes: minus a former roommate, a girl who quit facebook herself, and somebody I worked with. People at work are suspicious when they find out I'm not on facebook, and try to cajole me into joining.

baguasquirrel 16y ago

It is antisocial to forsake speaking with your friends. Speaking directly is a medium of communication, as is Facebook. You can argue about the cost/benefits of each, and claim your way is the better one, and this would constitute a lack of empathy, a lack of sympathy, or both. Now don't get me wrong, I don't claim to have been much better. And FWIW, I've observed the same effect for quitting WoW. Once I did, a whole class of friends stopped talking to me.

apotheon 16y ago
If someone told me he was getting rid of his cellphone because it was costing him too much money, time, whatever, I wouldn't leap to the conclusion that he's just snubbing his friends. If you would, I think you have some antisocial issues of your own. > And FWIW, I've observed the same effect for quitting WoW. Once I did, a whole class of friends stopped talking to me. They're jackasses if that's really the reason they stopped talking to you -- unless WoW is all you had in common with them, in which case I don't understand your problem. I find it difficult to believe you're honestly defending that kind of behavior, if they were supposedly real (not just gaming) friends.