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Ha, this is cool! Now a word for that thing people do where they intentionally impose on each other. Like I’ve noticed that for no particular reason sometimes i
by scarejunba 7y ago
Ha, this is cool! Now a word for that thing people do where they intentionally impose on each other. Like I’ve noticed that for no particular reason sometimes in our friend group we’ll do things like eat from someone else’s plate instead of going to get more, or ask someone to pick something up or pour you water. Or like when girls ask to go out somewhere but won’t really say where and all that.
Almost always seems to result in greater intimacy used in that manner.
What’s interesting is the fact that this is the same channel used abusively. I think I’ve seen that in action but not connected it as the same thing because the results are qualitatively different.
- ASlave2Gravity 7y agoSharing is caring ... as the saying goes. I like this thought on this being a two-way street; could you explain a bit more / build on that idea?
- scarejunba 7y agoI don't think there's much more to it than that it's nice to have people you're fond of count on you and expect things from you since that's an expression of trust on their part. Fulfilling that trust is just satisfying. The symmetry of requests/fulfillment makes it so that you know you're in a balanced relationship. Or perhaps there's a Ben Franklin Effect[0] sort of thing going on. 0: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect
- tsukurimashou 7y agoI think I see what you mean, with my family and close friends we do the same, I think it just feels good from time to time to just be able to relax, be lazy and have people taking care of you, as long as you do the same when they are not feeling up to something. Kind of a temporary unconditional love.