Live the life you want, but be as direct and open as you possibly can with your partner if that is your position. > I'll leave her to figure it out for hersel

Live the life you want, but be as direct and open as you possibly can with your partner if that is your position. > I'll leave her to figure it out for herself. The most ethical thing to do would be to force the issue and break up with her. Otherwise, by the time she figures out that you're not going to change your mind and breaks up with you, she'll resent that she wasted time off her biological clock. I understand that your perspective is "She might change her mind in time, so if I'm happy with her right now, why should I force the issue? That's on her if the status quo doesn't work", but you've already seen the way her mind changed and it's not going in the direction you want. So at this point you're more aware than she is of the reality of the situation. Do the right thing.