Talk to me after your oldest have been out of the house for a decade. What works for you will not work for others. There are plenty of stories out there on /r

Talk to me after your oldest have been out of the house for a decade. What works for you will not work for others. There are plenty of stories out there on /r/raisedbynarcissists from people whose parents expected them to contribute to helping raise their siblings, and they were deeply resentful that they couldn't live the life they wanted. You made the choice to have 7 kids. Your older kids didn't get a choice when it comes to having to help you with your parental responsibilities.