> always have to figure out where to leave your child if you won’t want to saddle your partner with them. Inartfully stated, but access to childcare is a huge

> always have to figure out where to leave your child if you won’t want to saddle your partner with them. Inartfully stated, but access to childcare is a huge deal. As a step-parent I've got Bio Dad taking the load off usually one evening a week, every other weekend, and he does the needful in an emergency. Grandparents aren't nearby but often take them home or on a mini-vacation during the major school breaks. A cousin spent last summer with us, which gave us a lot of freedom at much less expense than summer camps and babysitters. I can't fathom how a relationship survives raising children without substantial outside help.