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Alright so I'm using a throwaway account for this as it's kind of personal but I really want to hear the HN community on this one. I'm 40, I've suffered anxiet
by throwaway_40 7y ago
Alright so I'm using a throwaway account for this as it's kind of personal but I really want to hear the HN community on this one.
I'm 40, I've suffered anxiety distorders and depression and I just never dated. I'd love to, but I just got stuck in this rut where I was kind of happy with my own company and just scared of change in my life in general. 30-40 is in some ways for me a lost decade. I spent lots of time working on my mental illness, had some fun experiences for sure, but just settled into this groove.
Now I'm reading stuff like this and, you know, I feel like I do want kids and I'd be really sad if I never ended up having them. Is it too late? Does anyone who was in my situation have some stories to share?
Really looking for some kind of encouragement I guess.
- ericd 7y agoNot too late, though if you're a woman, it gets harder to have a natural pregnancy the longer you wait. But we have some technology for that! My dad was nearly 40 when they had me, I know there are many new dads that are older than that.
- throwaway_40 7y agoThank you. I am male. Still lots of work to do, but there's no way I'm going to live this life without even trying.
- warrentr 7y agoPersonally I think late 30s or even early 40s is ideal for a lot of men. I'm 36 and just had my first kid, and I honestly can't imagine doing it any younger. I just would not have been ready in many ways. Obviously I don't know your personal situation, but i don't believe your age should slow you down. Best of luck if you end up down that path!