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This sometimes badly backfires on people. You're essentially betting that your first kids will be willing to do this, and will be responsible enough to do a dec
by nitwit005 7y ago
This sometimes badly backfires on people. You're essentially betting that your first kids will be willing to do this, and will be responsible enough to do a decent job of it.
When kids get older it seems fairly common to start fighting over having to look after siblings, as it's a barrier to having friends and studying.
- ARandomerDude 7y agoI don't disagree that this is a possibility. I'm sure it happens. In our house, we have a zero-tolerance policy for fighting or rudeness, and we strongly encourage polite problem solving, even with the toddlers. It works well. As for academics, we homeschool and vastly outpace the public school curriculum. For example, my 8 and 10 year olds are using a college Latin textbook. My oldest knows Clojure. It can be done, and, as I said previously, it's easier with more kids. I've been a father of 1, 2, 3, etc. and there's no comparison in the joy and ease that come with a large family.
- deanCommie 7y agoTalk to me after your oldest have been out of the house for a decade. What works for you will not work for others. There are plenty of stories out there on /r/raisedbynarcissists from people whose parents expected them to contribute to helping raise their siblings, and they were deeply resentful that they couldn't live the life they wanted. You made the choice to have 7 kids. Your older kids didn't get a choice when it comes to having to help you with your parental responsibilities.