I have two kids (roughly 3 years apart), though compared to other parents, mine slept pretty well very early on. I had to scale back on hobbies, but haven't gi

I have two kids (roughly 3 years apart), though compared to other parents, mine slept pretty well very early on. I had to scale back on hobbies, but haven't given them up. I wrote two books while I had small children at home, mostly while they slept and in the subway during commutes. I paused doing my favorite sport (table tennis) for about two years, and resumed afterwards. It was harder for my wife, who breast fed (and my younger child wouldn't accept anything else). She had a harder time leaving the house on her own. Wisdom is hard to come by from a sample size of one. I'd just recommend to reserve one evening a week for things you used to like to do, and do even if you don't feel it in the moment. Best to leave the house for it.