>I love my family, thanks, and am a competent father. I don't love, and am not good at, taking care of small children all day every day, and my children would s

>I love my family, thanks, and am a competent father. I don't love, and am not good at, taking care of small children all day every day, and my children would suffer if I had to do that for an extended period of time. I don't think that's uncommon for men, and I'm sure it happens for some women too. If both of you are that way, and you are convinced your children will suffer from being taken care of by you, and you can afford to pay people that will do a better job than you, then by all means. >And if you were to make that remark about my wife to my face, I'd politely ask you to step outside. Just to make it clear, I am not insinuating your wife is inadequate in any way, just that I would feel bad for her if you felt that love was something you could get from professionals. I am sure she's a wonderful woman and I hope you have a great relationship with her. My point is that these daycare workers don't love your children anywhere near the amount that you and your wife do (I assume, I don't know you personally), and they aren't going to be able to fool your children.