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I’d argue there’s a difference between socializing and being bullied - the former is just more general exposure to social interaction. I suspect the more you ge

I’d argue there’s a difference between socializing and being bullied - the former is just more general exposure to social interaction. I suspect the more you get of that the better, I also suspect you need it from peers too (adults are not the same). There’s also some value in learning to stand up for friends and handle complex social dynamics which don’t go away when you become an adult. Being removed from this entirely is probably not helpful, though obviously there are limits.

toasterlovin 7y ago
> handle complex social dynamics which don’t go away when you become an adult. In my experience, most of the social dynamics of childhood completely disappear in adulthood. Adult generally don't spend most of their waking time with 30 or so other adults who were all born within 6 months of each other.
- _lacroix 7y ago
  But most adults do spend most of their waking time with 30+ other adults (at a point in life when the differences between ages start to flatten out quite a bit). It looks quite analogous to me.
  - learc83 7y ago
    School is nothing at all like work. Not even close. Do you remember what school was like? The social dynamics are unrecognizably different. The only place that was even remotely similar was when I worked retail during college.
  - toasterlovin 7y ago
    I would not describe a world comprised of 20 somethings straight out of college, 30 somethings with kids, 40 somethings with teenagers, 50 somethings with college-age kids, and 60 somethings with grandkids, nor people at any of these ages without kids as possessing anywhere near the level of homogeneity as you see in a K through 12 classroom.
AnimalMuppet 7y ago
> I’d argue there’s a difference between socializing and being bullied And if you could get the socialization without the bullying, that would be great. But I'm not sure there's a way to do that within the existing school structure, so your point seems to be a purely theoretical one.

toasterlovin 7y ago

> handle complex social dynamics which don’t go away when you become an adult. In my experience, most of the social dynamics of childhood completely disappear in adulthood. Adult generally don't spend most of their waking time with 30 or so other adults who were all born within 6 months of each other.

_lacroix 7y ago
But most adults do spend most of their waking time with 30+ other adults (at a point in life when the differences between ages start to flatten out quite a bit). It looks quite analogous to me.
- learc83 7y ago
  School is nothing at all like work. Not even close. Do you remember what school was like? The social dynamics are unrecognizably different. The only place that was even remotely similar was when I worked retail during college.
- toasterlovin 7y ago
  I would not describe a world comprised of 20 somethings straight out of college, 30 somethings with kids, 40 somethings with teenagers, 50 somethings with college-age kids, and 60 somethings with grandkids, nor people at any of these ages without kids as possessing anywhere near the level of homogeneity as you see in a K through 12 classroom.

AnimalMuppet 7y ago

> I’d argue there’s a difference between socializing and being bullied And if you could get the socialization without the bullying, that would be great. But I'm not sure there's a way to do that within the existing school structure, so your point seems to be a purely theoretical one.