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Certainly a couple, by themselves, is the 2nd worst choice for raising a child other than a single parent, by themselves. Children need to be raised by lots of
by hacknat 7y ago
Certainly a couple, by themselves, is the 2nd worst choice for raising a child other than a single parent, by themselves. Children need to be raised by lots of caring adults. However monogamy does provide a sort of back-stop safety protection against adults prioritizing their own relationships with each-other over their relationships with their children (who are naturally less interesting and invigorating relationship partners). Non-monogamous raising of children probably has its own advantages and dangers, the point is to make sure that children are always protected and nurtured to the best of their caregivers' ability. I worry about diffusing responsibility for raising children too much, at the expense of them developing a secure attachment. However, as long as all the adults in a child's life are prioritizing that child developing a "secure" attachment style, I could give a shit who is fucking who.
And yes, this is very much my business, because how you raise your children dictates what kind of society my children will live in, so please raise them right.
- shantly 7y agoTwo adults earning incomes and a third (and maybe also a fourth) keeping house and taking care of the kids sure seems a lot better for everyone concerned from my perspective (normal 2-parent household with three young kids).
- hacknat 7y agoI don't necessarily disagree, but lets be wise to the dangers that can present themselves in this situation, and then lets make sure to legislate against them (seriously).
- User23 7y agoThis is one of the second order negative effects of low birth rates in the developed world. Low birth rates mean low numbers of aunts, uncles, cousins, and other kinfolk who have a vested genetic interest in the well-being of your child. That's something that money just can't buy, no matter how great your nanny or pre-school or whatever is. And that's assuming you haven't moved away from your family, which many of us have.
- MiroF 7y ago> And yes, this is very much my business, because how you raise your children dictates what kind of society my children will live in, so please raise them right. Sure, but I'd like to see if your conjecture is actually backed up by the evidence. I too might be initially inclined to believe that monogamous partners are better for childcare, but I'm guessing that I am also epistemically biased towards that assumption, just as a product of the societal norms I've grown up with.