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Wow that is harsh. When I read her article, I shared it with my husband and my mom. My mom was shocked and saddened by it. My husband understood that she was e
by farout 16y ago
Wow that is harsh.
When I read her article, I shared it with my husband and my mom. My mom was shocked and saddened by it. My husband understood that she was essentially saying that she believed that her child could do it - like a coach who constantly pushes you because she believes in you even if you don't believe in yourself.
I personally could not do this someone.
However, it comes how to you convince someone that is worth the effort. There is an excellent book "Influencer: The Power to Change Anything" with great examples like curbing HIV transmission and eliminating guinea worm parasite. The bottom-line is the person who needs to do the change has to answer 2 questions essentially: Is this worth it? and am I really capable of doing it?
For Amy's children she is answering question 2 for her children.
- barrkel 16y agoMy GF read Amy's book just the other day. She found it hilarious - the book mocks this parenting method. It's not intended as serious advice.
- bad_user 16y agolike a coach who constantly pushes you Analogies to sports come up a lot, but the difference is playing football / soccer / tennis / whatever is fun and that's why you are there; eating crap from that coach is just a side-effect of you wanting to be better at something. On the other hand in the child / parent relationship described in that article, the kid doesn't have a choice. He cannot change coaches, he cannot pick another sport. Some children endure and in fact may turn out better. But others become depressed adults. And if there's one thing I know: I'm not a father that wants his boy growing up to be miserable. So I'll try pushing him when he lacks purpose, but whatever he likes doing I'll encourage him.